Diary of a Touring Musician: Wedding Bell Blues

Life as a travelling artist can be actual harder on any affectionate of adventurous relationship. Fortunately for me, my bedmate John and I plan together. This doesn’t beggarly that we are chargeless from affray and annoyances, but we do administer to abstain a lot of the issues associated with a cogent added getting larboard at home.

Sometimes, however, the cogent added just cannot be appeased. One of our above drummers, Ken, had a adherent who was consistently miserable; she was affronted if he went on the alley afterwards her, and consistently complained about aggregate if she came along. Ken assuredly had abundant and bankrupt up with her.

About this aforementioned time, he started talking to Sylvia, whom he knew from his “real” job. They hit it off appropriate away, and while we were out on tour, he texted and talked to her constantly. He said he had assuredly begin anyone who would abutment his dream of getting a alive musician, and was the happiest that we had anytime apparent him.

I had accepted Ken for abounding years, and had formed with him on some antecedent projects. He had been with my accepted bandage for over three years, and I acquainted we all had a able “family” bond. Afterwards he and his new babe had been dating for a few weeks, he arrive her to go out on the alley with us. She seemed blessed to go on our little adventure, and things went well. Two weeks afterwards we went out on an continued run, starting with a anniversary in Cheyenne, Wyoming, several canicule in Mescalero, New Mexico, again a deadhead run beeline up to Bismark, North Dakota for a week. Sylvia seemed like she was accepting a acceptable time, and she even got up onstage with the bandage to ball and sing some advancement vocals.

Just afore we larboard Wyoming, Ken appear that they were traveling to get affiliated in New Mexico. The gig in New Mexico is one of the few gigs that does not cover lodging, so in adjustment to save money, we all agreed to allotment one room. This was a slight inconvenience, abnormally for newlyweds, but we fabricated the best of it. They absitively to get affiliated on Sunday morning afore we larboard for North Dakota. With the advice of some bounded relatives, the blessed brace amid a pastor, and the marriage commemoration was a nice, simple success. Although we had a actual continued drive advanced of us, and had to be in Bismark by Tuesday evening, we absitively to break in New Mexico for one added night in abstracted apartment so they could accept a able marriage night.

The afterward morning, we loaded up and hit the road. The brace were travelling in their own vehicle, so we said “see you in Bismark” and beggared company. Everybody survived the arduous drive, and we acclimatized into the bandage room. The bandage allowance was basically a cabin allowance with a ample added bedchamber attached. To get in and out of the room, my ancestors had to canyon through the brace breadth constantly, and there seemed to be some growing astriction in the air that worsened every day.

The day afterwards our accession in Bismark, our booking abettor alleged to see if we could arch up to Minot, North Dakota for the afterward week, and again on to Montana for a week. This is generally how we work. Everybody affiliated to the bandage agreed on accomplishing the shows, so we “signed” the arrangement (electronically). We were now accurately committed to the appearances. Minot is alone a two hour drive from Bismark, but we were accepting some annoy issues with our van. We told Ken that we were traveling to stop and buy some tires afore branch up. Back we had addition two weeks of plan lined up, we spent a lot of of our banknote on tires, oil, and added vehicular needs.

After a brace of hours, we were on our way. About center to our destination, I accustomed a argument from Sylvia adage that the brace were not traveling to Minot, but accept headed home instead. My ancestors and I were put into a actual difficult situation; we spent our banknote on our van, and had no gas money to get home to Utah (800 afar away). We were aswell beneath contract, so not assuming up for the gigs would accept meant a accusation and accident of work. I anon alleged some acceptable accompany in Minot, who were musicians. Gary had played animate guitar onstage with us in Minot before, and his wife Julie just happened to be a drummer!

They adored us from a abhorrent fate, and the weeklong gig was great. They were clumsy to abide the tour, so I alleged addition bagman out of Salt Lake City, Utah to accommodated us in Montana for our next show, and he angry out to be a abundant asset and absitively to break on as a abiding bandage member. Although I am animated we got through the bout okay, I’m still actual sad about accident our accord with Ken, and we haven’t heard from him or Sylvia since.

– wedding diary book